Chapter 42

Accept all that comes… do all you can, move on and never repent….

Maa put up a brave front throughout the pandemic months! Taking precautions,  eating healthy and caring for herself….wish she had prioritised her health before!

She wants her freedom and her space, hence chose to live alone with care takers… under regular and distant monitoring by me. In the present scenario, we too felt that travelling would mean exposure to more danger.
Now she is ill, very ill…she did not want to trouble me, so disclosed only when it reached a serious stage! What is the ideal decision…who knows?

Paranoid to send her to hospital with the fear of Covid, we tried to treat her at home by video conferencing with doctor and close monitoring. Things settled down gradually….thanks to all our prayers, timely intervention and maa’s mental strength.

Such difficult situations arise in every family once or more, we learn to handle the crisis listening to our mind only!
I felt exhausted with the idea of admitting her in hospital of a city I do not live in. In past I have done this several times with a lot of physical and mental strength. Now I just felt too exhausted…..
It is unfair to expect relatives and friends to come forward as always….in Covid times. My husband took up the responsibility of rushing to her and doing the needful! His presence gave Maa hope and support,  to me this was a big relief! A couple of friends asked… “Don’t you think, you should be going instead of your husband….these days you never can be sure of recovery!” I had faith in my decision and in my prayers!

Maa at 80 believes that since my plate is full, she will be a burden to me! It is just not our duty as children to take care of our old and ailing parents …. We NEED to do it and in the best way we can! Just the way we do not compromise on the well being of our children we have to find ways to care for our parents!
We teach empathy to little children…the learning begins at home I feel.

“Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant with the weak and wrong. Sometime in your life, you will have been all of these.” –  Gautama Buddha